Sometimes “adulting” is too much
It isn’t easy being an adult in the 21st century. It seems that it takes much more effort and luck to be able to achieve the traditional markers of success. For many, the process for attaining and maintaining these markers can be stressful. Student loans to pay. A family to raise. A mortgage to pay. Maybe even a business to run.
Within this is the never-ending challenge of finding work-life balance. It’s a fine balancing act to do what you know you need to do to make a living vs. what family or friends may need from you. Not to mention finding out where your needs fit in with that.
On a larger scale, today’s adults are faced with complicated situations that require us to “be the adult in the room.” Collectively we face serious problems that require mature and thoughtful resolution. We need to be able to effectively solve problems and compassionately resolve interpersonal differences. However, not many of us were taught how to do this.
Resolving Your Own Childhood Wounds
Life Transitions, Aging, and Grief and Loss
This sounds like my situation right now. can I get through it?
Yes, you CAN get through this. That’s not to say, however, that it will be easy. Sometimes it may feel painful, but what you learn about yourself and how you’ll grow as a result is priceless. Below are some things that may work for you.
Get clear on your values, boundaries, needs, and desires
Learn how to effectively express yourself
Allow yourself to feel what needs to be felt
Develop the ability to see multiple possibilities to your life and personal circumstances
what a drag it is getting old
No, it isn’t easy getting older and taking on more responsibilities. We change as we get older. The person we thought we were isn’t who we are anymore. We take on new roles. Life choices we made may not have yield the results we were expecting.
However, getting older can also bring us gifts, such as wisdom, insight, and understanding. Sometimes we just need an outside perspective, but maybe our family and friends’ perspectives are too limited, biased, or subjective to be helpful to us. Yet, we know that we need to work with someone who can help us discover possibilities and opportunities for growth.
I’m beginning to see how I may benefit from therapy, but…
How long does therapy take, and how much does it cost?
How could music make therapy more effective for me?
How is music therapy different from taking music lessons?
I'm not musical, can I benefit from music therapy?
The benefits of our services for adults
Challenge: B had experienced sexual abuse and assault in her childhood and adolescence. During young adulthood she struggled with substance abuse and PTSD. She was coming to therapy looking for a therapeutic approach that would allow her to experience post-traumatic growth. She was specifically drawn to my background in voice, but she was reluctant to express herself vocally.
Treatment Plan/Results: For a few weeks she would express herself through improvising on the piano or percussion instruments. Sometimes she would ask me to play along, and other times she simply needed me to hold space and witness her playing. Eventually she began to use her voice. We started with toning a single vowel on a single pitch. As she connected with her voice and her breathing, she reconnected with her body, from which she would typically disassociate. By the end of our work together, she was able to identify a healthy, positive outlook for herself and her life.
“Faith’s work is amazing to watch. She integrates music and counseling to reach the individuals creative center, assisting them to find within themselves inner resources to achieve wellness.” – Jenny Hooks, MSN
“I work with Faith both personally and professionally and find that Faith is a brilliant Music Therapist. The therapeutic work dives deeply and comes through clearly without having to formulate words, which is a relief for so many people. Faith makes it easy to work deeply as she provides a stable and non-judgemental foundation for people to comfortably express themselves.” – Daisy Lear, Licensed Acupuncturist
my work as a counselor helping others embrace change
Change and transition are things that I’ve come to embrace in my own life. Always wanting to be my own drummer, I marched to my own beat from a young age. This wasn’t always easy for me to do, so I honor the courage others show when honoring who they are. I appreciate the challenges that we face and overcome when we strive to become the best of who we are in all of our humanness.
ok, i’m convinced. what do i need to do next?
Contact us to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation if you think that you could benefit from the music therapy and counseling services offered by SoundWell Music Therapy. We’ll be happy to arrange a time when we can talk more about your particular situation and to schedule an initial session.